Your dating profile is basically your “shop window” and you want to make sure that you display the traits that you have to offer to the best of their potential
The biggest challenge you will face, when it comes to an online dating site, will be to type your profile. It’s not an easy task to try and come up with words on a screen that define who we are and what we are looking for in another person.
Here are some tips to help you tackle this task.
Think about meeting someone for the first time who you have an interest in at a coffee shop or at a party. Imagine what you would say to help describe yourself to the other person. This is exactly the sort of approach you want to take when you write your profile.
Your going to find one of the challenges about writing your online profile is to not have it come off sounding like a resume. You want to take a kind of matter-of-fact approach, but you don’t want it to be stuffy or boring. Otherwise, you’ll lose most people when they get to your profile. It’s a fine balance. It will take a little bit of work and some editing to get it right. Be sure to throw in some humor. Remember, this is your chance to flirt, to have fun, and tell the world about you.
Use AIDA in your profile. No, not your Aunt Aida: Attention-Interest-Desire-Action. This is a four step process that will help you to stand out among your competition on the internet dating site of your choice. If you apply these principles to your profile you should get some quality results.
We’ve already established that you want to use your tagline to grab attention. Don’t use the boring ones like: â€œLooking for a nice guyâ€ or â€œAre you the one?â€ or â€œWant to Have Fun?â€ etc…Use the tips mentioned earlier to get an attention grabbing tagline.
You will garner interest by utilizing the body of the profile to its fullest potential. Most profiles are very poorly written.
You can use this to your advantage. If you write a stellar profile, you will stand head and shoulders above the rest of your competition.
You want to keep your profile brief, but interesting. The ideal length of an online dating site profile is 200-350 words. You want to use anywhere from 150-250 of those words for yourself. You will then use 50-100 words as filters for the type of person you are seeking.
Create desire within someone by trying to make a connection with them. For example, if you have a parent of a particular ethnic heritage, mention it. Someone reading your profile who shares that same ethnicity will have a desire to share the heritage they have in common with you. Another example, is if you are originally from another part of the country, mention it. If someone reading your profile is originally from there, or has relatives there, they will feel a connection to you.
You must create a strong call to action at the closing of your profile. For example, â€œIf you like what you’ve read, don’t just sit there like a bump on a log, you big dummy, send me a message and tell me what’s going on with you!â€
Even better, is the filter strong call to action close: â€œSo, if you’re an athletic, 22-31 year old, non-smoking, woman who is as big of a health nut as me, send me a message so we can set up a race to see who pays for dinner that night. ;)â€ As you can see, this closing helps to ensure you get a message from someone in the age range 22-31, a non-smoker, someone who is athletic, health conscious, and someone who doesn’t mind being a little competitive. It’s fun, a little humorous, and a little flirty. Again, read through some profiles and look for strong closings and jot them down. Then make them unique to you.
Other topics you should cover in your profile to spark interest: What you do for a living and what goals you are trying to or hope to achieve career wise. At the start, I mentioned you should think about what you would say to a stranger you had some interest in at a party or coffee shop. What you do for a living, and what you aspire to do for a living, almost always comes up within the first 5 minutes of conversation when you meet someone new. Again, be careful with this topic. You’re not looking for a job, you’re looking for someone to hang out with and maybe start a relationship with.
If you have children, you should definitely talk about them in your profile. You can mention their age and where they live. You can mention something specific about them like: â€œI have a 12 year old son who lives with his mother in New York City, and loves to play soccer.â€ However, don’t overdo it when talking about you kids. Remember, this profile is about you.
You should talk about any pets you have. Most likely, they are an important part of your life, and you want someone who’s reading your profile to know you have pets. Again, this isn’t something you want to overdo. Something like: â€œI have a very friendly 3 year old male Collie named Danny who enjoys going to the beach and park with me.â€
Obviously, mention any hobbies or activities you like to engage in. Mention any civic or professional groups you may belong to.
Always be sure to mention exactly what you are looking for in a relationship within the ad. If you’re looking for a serious or long-term relationship don’t be afraid to say so. If you’re just looking to date around and have some no strings attached fun, don’t be afraid to say so. Remember, the goal of the ad is to attract the type of people who are looking for the same things as you. You don’t want someone who is looking for a serious relationship contacting you if that’s not what you want, and vice versa.
Avoid negativity in your ad at all costs! There’s enough negativity in the world. If people want negativity all they have to do is turn on their television and watch the news for an hour. When it comes to online dating sites, people are looking for upbeat, positive, fun, people to be around. A perfect example of negativity in an ad would be: â€œAre there any good guys left? I think all men are nothing but a bunch of liars and cheaters.â€ Or, â€œI really can’t stand the stuck up women at the bars and clubs so I figured I’d give the online dating thing a chance.â€ Even if you really feel that way, or think that way, delete them out of your profile instantly. You’ll be doing yourself a big favor.
Another big thing to avoid in your profile are generalities. I’m sure you’ve heard these before: â€œI’m a really fun, outgoing, person who likes to eat out and go to the movies and take walks on the beach.â€ This is just a profile makeover waiting to happen, or more to the point, a profile that gets passed over very quickly.
Be unique. Instead of saying â€œI like to go to the moviesâ€, say: â€œMy favorite movie is The Godfather. It’s my favorite movie because you can’t go wrong with Marlon Brando, Robert Duvall, and Al Pacino acting in the same movie. I think the acting, the cinematography, the musical score, and the writing are superior, even to most movies released today.â€ Which sounds better to you?
One more example, instead of â€œI like going out to eatâ€, use, â€œWhen it comes to eating, I really like to go to Fred’s Place. My favorite sandwich there is the Philly Steak Sub. The steak is mouth watering; it’s always cooked to perfection. They always put a heaping pile of mozzarella cheese on it. The freshly chopped green peppers and onions are the perfect toppers to this delicious sandwich. Do you get the picture?
Use your profile to its fullest potential. Don’t be afraid to throw some humor in. However, only use humor if it’s natural to you. Some people just don’t have a flair for humor, and that’s okay if that’s how you are. The biggest piece of advice about writing your profile I can give, is just be yourself. Don’t try to be something or someone you’re not. You won’t attract the right type of people by doing it. You’ll only be cheating yourself