Eharmony researchers help to identify the need to understand your very own flirting style.
No matter if you prefer to have potential partners come over to start off a conversation, or you are happy to start the interactive flirting, understanding that you have your very own flirting style may well help you to bag that illusive life partner, according to Jeffrey Hall, assistant professor of communication studies at the University of Kansas.
Jeffry recently completed a study of 5,100 dating couples, in which he looked at the various ways we have of conveying that we are attracted to other people.
Knowing something about the way you communicate attraction says something about challenges you might have had in your past dating life, Hall said. Hopefully, this awareness can help people avoid those mistakes and succeed in courtship.
Jeffery has found that their basically five styles of flirting: physical, traditional, polite, sincere and playful.
In physical flirting, people express their sexual interest in a potential partner and, he says, often quickly can develop the relationships, have more sexual chemistry and have a greater emotional connection to their partners.
Traditional flirts tend to believe that men should make the first moves, with women assuming more passive roles. Both sexes comfortable with this style seem to prefer more intimate dating scenes,, he said.
There are many people whose flirting styles fall into the category of playful and are aimed largely at enhancing their own self-esteem, Hall said. These people are less likely to have lasting and meaningful relationships, he added.
In some ways, the very early part of developing relationships is important to the success of long-term relationships, including marriages, he said.
Hall co-authored the article with Steve Carter, senior director of research and product development at online dating site eHarmony.com; and other researchers.
Take the quiz: FLIRT QUIZ. original Reporting by Carey Gillam