Online Dating advice Setting Goals
We have just about finished our beand new online dating advice book, and have decided to share a few of the main points of the advice book on the Blog for easy access- however if you want a full copy it is FREE and can either be found in your membership email when you joing our blog, or can be downloaded directly on this page Dating advice e book
Like anything in life that you actually want to achieve, you cant just jump in and hope for the best, you need to plan what you want in return you’re your time and possibly your money, and also give some thought to how you plan on getting there.
As part of your planning you should give your self a realistic time-scale and set some goals to work to, this will not only give you clear focus, but will also serve to give you an idea of how well you are doing- if you have penciled in that you will be married on day 36, and your not, maybe you need to go back and have a look at your wish list and try and be more realistic with your goal setting!
When we are preparing to create a profile we usually use a variation of the following flow, and hopefully this general formula will help you on your way.
We usually give ourselves a week to get through choosing a site, deciding on what we are looking for and putting together our profile.
This gives us plenty of time to sleep on each decision that we make and be sure that we are making the right ones- remember that there is NO RUSH!
We look to have a “stock” of matches, or “maybe’s” of around 20 by day 14- this is a realistic, and achievable goal with the right profile choices!
Take your time, and get it right from the start and you will save weeks later on, as a BAD profile or site choice could result in nothing happening for weeks or even months and you having to either start again, or simply giving up not having achieved anything.
By day 30, you would hope to be in communication with at least 1 person. Whilst remembering that chatting online is not monogamous- and the person that we may be chatting with does not expect that they are the only ones- in fact we have found that “slipping in” the wrong name in an email, and then explaining that it was a mistake, due to “chatting to several people at once” is a MASSIVE call to take more interest/action for men in particular, and will invoke the “well I had better get in there first” mentality.
This is a bit sneaky, and we will leave the decision on trying this to your own discretion… but we can confirm that saying this to a woman is a DEFFINATE DEAL BREAKER, so don’t even bother trying!.”
Want to read more? take a look at the folowing exerpts from the book.